“Graciousness is shown by what you don’t say,
even if what you could say would be true.”
Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall
source of photo and quote beneath: http://airmiles.wordpress.com/2007/06/page/2/
We have slowly,
but most certainly,
Both are good values.
But one is much higher in value.
Where generosity can be proud
graciousness can only be born of gratitude
That’s why BBC’s graciousness
has a definite time limit
Grateful to see you arrive, sorry to see you leave
only if the visit is less
than 2 minutes long.
(Maybe that’s me)
It would be generous of me to NOT say
that’s only the tip of the iceberg with her
It would be gracious of me to say
that the truth is,
she taught me
to gravitate away
from those who don’t like me
QUICKLY! (Thanks BBC!)
Unfortunately, it taught me
only to focus on
what the OTHER person’s reaction was
and not my reaction to others.
The only people I was SURE of
BBC’s reactions about
had either strange taste
or great endurance and loyalty;
to my father, I believe.
Of those, they were all either
"too much" or "I don’t know about them!" to BBC
(those are the two, very distant extremes
decoded for your understanding)
Because there would be those passing looks
quick winks; rolled eyes, or even a contorted mouth
that looked like the contents tasted
about as good as dog poop.
And that was how she emoted about the ones who stayed.
Priests got a longer leniency time.
But they fell from grace at the
they knew what BBC was up to
and they no longer showered her
with praise or accolades.
So BBC had only 2 friends in the 19 years I lived with her
and uncounted priests as "holier friends"
Until they caught her.
I, personally, was toast
in her eyes
by age eight.
But true graciousness
has no time limit and no requirements
because it comes from within
and is urged into the light
by the wish to do so
of the person who is gracious.
Oh, to have more
than a cupful
I finally figured out how to do that.
Be gracious myself.
It goes well with kindness
and that’s something
I do not lack.